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Why is my boyfriend such a jealous jerk when I've given him no reason to act like this?

Birdie

A very quick look at your Birth Chart shows that your Moon is either in Taurus or Gemini, like your Sun Sign. (This would depend on your time of birth, and if this is unknown, there is work that can be done on your Chart to ascertain some idea of this.) Depending on whether you were born earlier or later in the day, either you are quite possessive yourself and tend to reflect that in the way you have attracted a partner to yourself, or that you are quite volatile, and maybe your boyfriend finds this difficult to handle, as it may make him feel insecure. I have also laid out some Tarot Cards and from the spread, I feel that you are much more at home with a career and the outside world than you are with home and family life and it is possible that a disruptive family situation in your own upbringing has made it hard for you to feel comfortable with certain domestic situations. It looks as if you long for love and a comfortable, secure and happy environment in your home life and out of your relationship. (And this is something that you are working towards and that I believe ultimately you will have - but not necessarily how you are going about it at the present moment. We'd need to go into depth over this, which is not what we have space for here. Suffice it to say there's a pattern and a potential there.) The Tarot Card the Three of Pentacles in your Marriage position tends to suggest that whichever relationship you have, it should start from a firm basis and be built up from that, and worked on. (It does not say that it is this relationship necessarily. If you have not started as you mean to go on, with a basis of trust and security, you either have to strip everything down to a "start again" situation, or start somewhere else, with someone else!) The covering card does suggest that a certain sacrifice has to be made in your life.

Some people are jealous and possessive - a little of this behaviour is flattering and a sign that the person cares about you and wants to be constantly reassured that you care about them. Too much of this behaviour can become an obsession, make you unhappy and eventually wreck the relationship. Try to both reach an understanding about this and to change things before it's too late - otherwise you might be forced to call it a day.

Seldiy

Hello, I would love to know if I would ever get back with David.

Charlene

From the birth details you supplied me, you both have a strong compatibility. David, who is a Fire Sign, will relate strongly to someone who has a good proportion of that Element in their Astrological Makeup. Whilst you don't have a lot of Planets in Fire, the one feature you do have in Fire is strong enough to show that you too have a particular affinity for Fire people and that you are very likely to attract such a person into your life. Having said that, I think your need for David is more pronounced than his need for you. Also, allied to the positioning of Venus in your Chart and your Pisces Sun-Sign, you have the tendency to attract a certain quality in a person which will cause you pain and you are in danger of making a martyr of yourself. This can make for a vibrant and exciting relationship, but unless you can channel something constructive out of this danger, you will hurt yourself.

Your Tarot Cards show total disruption of your love-life and a fairly stagnant situation arising for quite some time. Something in your domestic situation seems to be over and whilst it may be causing pain, the Tarot Card, the Ten of Swords shows that things will not get worse. In fact, they soon have a chance of getting much better; but changes have to be initiated. I think the next step for you, is not to worry about "what is going to happen next", but rather to make a new step, knowing that this will clear the way for the step after that. Nothing will change until you make changes in other aspects of your life. Once you do that, you will know what you want next and can work towards attracting the influences you want. You can't always get exactly what you want every time, but you can give yourself the best possible chance of letting the right things come together.

Seldiy

Dear Seldiy,

On Friday 13th I was having coffee during my lunch break with a boyfriend. My other boyfriend saw us, I think. What should I do? I mean, they're not really boyfriends, they're just boys that are friends. But I haven't seen the other one since and he hasn't called me. Now I need advice!

Michelle (Scorpio)

I answered this briefly on the Stories page. You seem to be acting or feeling guilty about this episode. Why? Have you something to hide? Have you led one or both of these friends to believe that there is more to the relationship than there really is? You are all young, you're "shopping around", you're not making commitments and you are friends. Possessiveness and jealousy have no place here. If either "boyfriend" can't cope with your wanting to share a little time with a friend, (if you have levelled with them about the status of the friendship) then you shouldn't waste time with them. If you yourself can't handle it, you need to examine your feelings for them. At the end of the day, be honest with both of them (and any others around the scene.) There's plenty of time for getting serious. You should all be enjoying your freedom and having fun with the friendship. Why not all have a coffee together? However, if you think one of them will be upset by this, dedicate some of your time to them - but be honest and don't mislead anyone!

Seldiy

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